Victim Assistance Program
PERSONAL SAFETY PLAN
The following suggestions are provided to assist
you in considering alternatives to keep yourself and your children safe.
DURING AN EXPLOSIVE INCIDENT
- If there is an argument, try to be in a place that
has an exit and not in a bathroom, kitchen, or room that may contain weapons.
- Practice getting out of your home safely. Identify
which doors, windows, elevator, or stairwell to use.
- Identify one or more neighbors you can tell about the
violence and ask them to call the police if they hear a disturbance coming
from your home.
- Devise a code to use with your children, family,
friends, and neighbors when you need the police.
- Decide and plan where you will go if you ever have to
- Use your instincts and judgement (your 'gut' feeling). In a dangerous situation, placate the abuser if possible, to keep him or her calm.
Remember: You do not deserve to be hit or threatened
WHEN PREPARING TO LEAVE
- Open a checking account or savings account in your
- Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, and extra clothes and medicines in a safe place or with someone you trust IF IT IS SAFE FOR YOU TO DO SO.
Do not do this if you think your batterer might find out and retaliate against
- Get your own post office box.
- Find a safe place where you and your children can go
or a person who can lend you money.
- Always keep the shelter phone number and some change
or a calling card on you for emergency phone calls.
- If you have pets, make arrangements for them to be cared for in a safe place. The Safe Haven may be able to help with these arrangements.
Remember: Leaving your batterer is the most dangerous time
WITH A PROTECTIVE ORDER
- If you or your children have been threatened or
assaulted, you can request a protective order from the District Attorney at
- Always keep your protective order with you.
- Call the police if your partner violates the
- Inform family members, friends, and neighbors that
you have a protective order in effect.
- Think of alternative ways to keep safe if the police do not respond immediately.
IN YOUR OWN RESIDENCE
- If you stay in your home, lock your windows and
change locks on your doors.
- Develop a safety plan with your children for when you
are not with them.
- Inform your child's school, day care, etc., about who
has permission to pick up your child.
- Inform your neighbors and the landlord that your
partner no longer lives with you, and that they should call the police if they
see him/her near your home.
- Never call the abuser from your home; he/she may find
out where you live. Never tell the abuser where you live.
- Request an unlisted/unpublished number from the telephone company.
ON THE JOB AND IN PUBLIC
- Decide who at work you will inform of your situation.
Include the office building security (if possible, provide them with a picture
of your batterer).
- When at work, if possible, have someone screen your
- Have someone escort you to and from your car, bus, or
- If at all possible, use a variety of routes to come and go from home.
WHAT YOU NEED TO TAKE WITH YOU, if
it is safe to do so.
of these items can be replaced. You cannot.
- Driver's license
- Birth certificate
- Children's birth certificates
- Social security cards
- Money and/or credit cards (in your name) Remember
that credit cards may be 'traced'
- Checking and/or savings account books
- Protective order
- Marriage license
- Lease, rental agreement, house deed
- Car registration and insurance papers
- Health and life insurance papers
- Medical records for you and your children
- School records
- Work permits/Green Card/Visa
- Divorce and custody papers
- House and car keys
- Valuable jewelry
- Address book
- Pictures and sentimental items
- Change of clothes for you and your children
If you need assistance with developing a safety plan,
contact Victim Assistance or Safe Haven